Finding beauty in your spirit

In a world where beauty is all over magazines, models are size zero and the make-up and fashion
industry are booming.
How does a Christian woman keep up with beauty and fashion without compromising? <<<~ Tweet This

I'm not saying that we want to be noticed for our fashion sense but we are still women and we want to be recognised as such and appreciated in our femininity. The Bible does not speak in good terms of fashion, make-up and looking good. There are no fashion tips to get noticed as a Christian or as a woman that would fit well on the pages of a magazine.

In fact, 1 Peter 3:3 says quite the opposite “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewellery and fine clothes.”

Well, that puts the fashion houses in their place and maybe that's the point, who is it that these things are important to? The people who are saying that beauty comes from the clothes you wear, the bag you carry and your jewellery, are the people who make it, those that stand to gain from what you buy!

What you wear may well seem to change your worth in the eyes of some people but you have to ask yourself who are those people and why do you care? What difference does it make to the person you are?

Don't get me wrong looking good can go a long way to help you feel confident and I like a good fitting pair of jeans as much as the next person, but do a good pair of jeans make me a more beautiful person?

I often look toward ‘The wife of noble character’ in Proverbs 31, as a woman to live up to. In all of those wonderful words to describe her, there is no mention of her being beautiful, well dressed or owning lovely jewels. What it does say is that beauty is fleeting (verse 30).

So, why is she praised? She fears the Lord. 

Turning the page in the your Bible, you find the writer of Ecclesiastes has similarly come to the conclusion that the things we are told are so important are in fact meaningless. He spends the whole of the book exploring work, ownership, property and money and what he finds is that none of it has any eternal worth.

So, what is of worth in a woman, in a wife? 

“Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, 
which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 
1 Peter 3:4

How do we come to a place of having a gentle and quiet spirit? The same way the Proverbs woman did, by fearing God.

“Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter; 
Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man.” 
Ecclesiastes 12:13


  1. Hi Tania, thank you for your post. My hearts desire is to be a gentle and quiet spirit. The older I get, the more I see how meaningless everything else is :)

  2. Amen to this, Tania. It is so much more important to pursue a noble character than outer beauty. I know it's ok to present ourselves well but it's about balance and priorities isn't it?
    Thanks for sharing at Essential Fridays.
    Mel from Essential Thing Devotions and Connect With God