When marriage is not plain sailing

As I walked down the aisle smiling at friends and family before turning my attention to my waiting husband to be, feelings of joy and happiness overwhelmed me and I saw my future wedded bliss before me.

We went on a cruise for our honeymoon and it was idyllic. Blue waters, expanse of oceans, tropical islands, pure bliss, but it only takes a shift in the wind or a darkening of the sky and that wonderful floating hotel can all of a sudden feel small and vulnerable, threatened as it rolls on a stormy sea.

Marriage is just like this as we commit to each other before God, knowing and celebrating that he has brought us to our Mr Right, we can sometimes forget that Mr Right is not the same thing as Mr Perfect. Sometimes as we settle into marriage there are times when we feel like we’re rolling on a stormy sea.

There are many verses in the Bible about love and commitment and wonderful poetry that is often used during the wedding. We didn't have any of these at our wedding. Early on in the planning God gave us a piece of scripture that we used in our wedding vows;

           "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity"
Colossians 2:12-14 NIV

Marriage is two imperfect people falling in love in an imperfect world and committing to each other before a perfect God. Love is the glue that binds us together but before that comes a lot of acts of will to be kind, compassionate, patient and to bear with each other. There are always going to be things that rock the boat, that make us irritated with each other.

"Your husband is not perfect and neither are you." <<<~ Tweet This

God goes on to say in verse 15 that we should let peace rule and be thankful and again in verse 17 we are told to give thanks.

When your husband leaves his dirty socks on the floor, pick them up and be thankful that he did however unload the dishwasher. When he treads muddy shoes through the house be thankful that he has been out at work all day to provide for the family.

When he is too tired to have a real heart to heart, be thankful he's not too tired to hold you.
There are a thousand tiny ways that the imperfect person that God has given us can irritate us but there are equally a thousand tiny things that we can be thankful for.

We are God's chosen people and we choose to clothe ourselves with the character of Jesus. Marriage may not be plain sailing every day but, the odd storm does not ruin the journey.


  1. Thank you. The strength of the husband (the boat), the emotions of the wife (the ocean) .... holding them both together ... the Anchor ... the Lord.

    1. What a lovely picture that paints 'poetrycottage' - thank you :)